I've lived in the Netherlands for 14 years—why we're always ranked one of the world's happiest countries
The Dutch Art of Doing Nothing: How Niksen Can Improve Happiness #
People living in the Netherlands have found a unique way to embrace happiness - through “niksen,” or the art of doing nothing. Despite its initial appearance of selfishness or boredom, niksen is seen as a valuable life skill by the Dutch. It helps people regain composure, find calm, and prevent burnout.
Here are four ways to make niksen work for you:
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Embrace doing nothing: When asked what you’re doing during your niksen time, be unapologetic and simply respond with “Nothing.” Taking breaks and holidays should not be seen as laziness but as a crucial self-care practice. Resist cultural pressures and find support in other niksen-minded individuals.
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Work and rest according to your natural rhythm: Everyone has their own chronotype, determining when they are most productive. Understand your natural peak hours and allocate activities accordingly. A visual diagram can aid in prioritizing tasks and obligations.
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Share moments of doing nothing: While niksen is often associated with solitude, it can be enhanced by sharing the experience with loved ones. Whether it’s reading to children, playing with them, or cuddling with a spouse, finding moments of togetherness in doing nothing can be truly special.
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Embrace normalcy: In the Netherlands, intense emotional outbursts or bragging about excessive work hours is discouraged. The cultural norm is to “just be normal,” avoiding dramatic behaviors. Putting in too much effort at work may not be rewarded but instead met with eye-rolls and reminders to take time for oneself.
Niksen offers a refreshing perspective on happiness and well-being. By embracing the art of doing nothing, individuals can find a new sense of calm and contentment in their lives.